Posted on August 31st, 2016
Jealousy, or as Shakespeare coined it, the green-eyed monster, is a powerful emotion that is very harmful to one’s health. Jealousy doesn’t always have to be bad, however. With a strong mind-body connection, one can pick up on the signals, and use the jealousy to propel forward in a positive direction. For example, if you’re jealous of a friend whose career is taking off when yours isn’t, you can manifest that jealousy into motivation and take the steps to position yourself in the right direction. Instead of letting the green-eyed monster consume you if you’re jealous of a pretty girl, you can use the signals to realize your self-love is low and that you need to spend more time loving yourself.
Here are some tips to help get in tune with those signals quicker, as well as changing your jealousy into healthy and positive energy:
It is through stillness in meditation that we gain detachment from our situations, thoughts and emotions to have clear perception to see them for what they are.
Every day sit in stillness to strengthen the connection between your mind and your body, even if only for a few minutes. It’s amazing how much is going on internally that you might not be conscious about. I have some days that when I finally take my seat to meditate, I realize how many thoughts are racing through my mind, creating tension, fear and anxiety. When I breathe and become mindful about these thoughts, I return to balance and live my life to the fullest. Whenever we expend energy towards negative jealousy, we limit ourselves from growing.
We suffer when we are in disharmony with nature. The ego is in control when we manifest negative jealousy. The soul, our true state, knows only love towards all beings. If you start to feel jealousy, go for a walk or sit outside. Being connected with nature is grounding. It reminds us that peace is within us and we already have everything we need.
Our breath is a powerful tool to break us away from mental thinking, teleporting us to the now. At the first signals of jealousy, focus on the breath – the inhales and the exhales. Alternate nostril breathing and Ujjayi breath are both fantastic to soothe vata and increase grounding energy.
Breathe is a great app if the negative jealousy has manifested into an emotion. Be strict with yourself and make sure to set a timer for longer than feels comfortable. The longer you continue to focus on your breath, the more relaxed you will feel and the less the thoughts will have power over you.
Laughter is the best medicine! Laughter is the last thing we feel like doing when we’re feeling jealous, but it’s a great way to stop being so serious about something that is only hurting you. Call a good friend, watch a funny movie, or simply just smile. My tai chi teacher always ended our practice with a smile. It always worked to improve our moods! Try it next time you’re feeling jealous!
5. Make a list of what you’re grateful for
When we’re jealous of something or someone we forget all the amazing things in our own lives. Next time you’re feeling jealous, grab a notebook and write down everything you appreciate. Some of the things I like to put on my list are my health, my family’s health, my family, my knees etc. Be specific and keep expanding to think of new things. Practicing this will change your mindset from focusing on what you lack to what you have.
Love and light. Namaste.