Boosting your self-esteem
Posted on August 22nd, 2016
It is imperative to be comfortable in your own skin. If you lack self-esteem, anything and everything can shake you to your core and you lack the confidence to be happy.
Loving yourself should be easy but sometimes it’s hard. With so much social media it is very easy to compare yourself to others. The problem with disliking yourself is that you’re expending energy being negative, therefore wasting that energy which could be used to grow and expand the mind. Life is short so the quicker we can increase awareness to shed the thoughts and emotions that don’t serve us, the better.
Here are some tips for those days where you don’t feel like the beautiful warrior that you are:
1. Manipura Chakra balancing
The Manipura, or Solar Plexus Chakra is located right above the navel. It is where the fire element resides. When the chakra is out of balance we have self-esteem issues, lack of self-respect, and fear of rejection and criticism.
If you are feeling a lack of confidence, slow and controlled core strengthening exercises are a great way to fuel the fire within. Boat pose is my personal favourite way to engage the samana vayu in the core. With each breath envision your inner fire growing stronger and brighter.
As the element of fire is associated with the 3rd chakra, meditation focusing on a flame can be a great way to calm the anxiety into stillness so that you can boost your self-esteem. While gazing at the dancing flame, envision that the fire you are staring at is within your core being.
As you continue to breathe and relax further into deeper relaxation, imagine this gold ember burning brighter and brighter, so much so that an entire halo of gold light is surrounding you. Your soul is pure love and light. Doing this meditation will help quiet the ego, and allow your true state, the soul, to rule your mind and perception of life. Always remember that you are worthy, it is the voice of the ego telling you otherwise. The best way to calm the ego is through our breath.
When we’re feeling self-conscious or are criticizing ourselves too much, it is because the ego is ruling our minds. Spending time in nature is one of the most effective ways for grounding and calming anxiety. If you start to notice you’re feeling down, step outside for some air. Listening to the sounds of the birds or feeling the grass under our feet are great ways to bring us back to our centre. If the thoughts are still happening rapidly, try some kapalbhati pranayama.
Kapalbhati breathing focuses on strong exhales, the inhales should be automatic and pretty much silent. This pranayama strongly engages the abdomen to send a mass amount of fresh oxygen to the brain. Inhale deeply, then follow with about 60 rapid inhale/exhales through the nose. After the first round, take a deep inhale through the nose and a nice long exhale through the nose.
Take care of your body, mind and soul. Nourish your body with healthy foods filled with nutrients. It makes a big difference when you take time to cook your food with love, and choose fresh ingredients. Of course it’s never bad to indulge yourself in a treat. I love chocolate and doubt there will ever be a day when that changes! Just don’t go overboard with the portion size because you’re being mindful about what you’re putting into your body. Really enjoy every bite!
Exercise your body to release toxins and boost endorphins. Go on a hike, swim, run, yoga class, or whatever it is that puts a smile on your face and makes you feel on top of the world.
Take care of your mind by regularly meditating and checking in to see how you are. It’s always a great idea to keep a journal in which to write at the end of the day to release any last minute thoughts. The more you practice going internal and getting in tune with your mental state, the quicker your mind will react to signals when you begin to stray from balance. The sooner you notice you start to diverge from balance, the easier it is to change gears to head to a positive destination.
4. Stop comparing yourself
Comparison is the thief of joy. If you find yourself on social media scrolling through another profile, or even just having the mental thoughts, sign out and start making a list of all that you’re grateful for. Doing this will switch your mindset from focusing on what you lack to what you have. Some of the things I like to put on my list are the most basic things that I have, like the food I ate today, the safety of my bed etc.
I hope these little tips help to help you spend less time fighting yourself, and more time fighting for yourself. Love and light, warrior. Namaste.